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Master of Sex
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I feel so disappointed and defeated. I just started chatting to a very hot dude, he sent me his pic on site. When we moved to WhatsApp, I requested other pics and BAM! So I asked who's pic was on the site, he says its him when he was younger. I'm so freaking sick and tired if people posing. And then when I ask what happened they make it look like I am shallow or aloof. 

I am a down to earth but honest person. I want a hot man (well what I find hot) because or else I don't need to fantasize I can pull any guy off the street or wherever and get with him. Then, I'd be lying to myself and faking. That's not me. I'm not asking for a super model but if I see your face and I'm not attracted I say so. Why waste anyone's time? Seriously,  to people still faking it, don't. Cause now I seem like an arrogant bitch and he's ego is hurt. Rather be honest upfront, you are someone's cup of tea and you are perfect. But please be honest don't waste someone's 're really too old to be playing catfish.

Sexlightened
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we know your pain kitty.

Sexlightened
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I honestly didn't know guys faked their Face pics I thought it was only Dick pics! Never to old to learn.

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We had our share also :-) A few with pics on this site easily 15 to 20 years old, a few easily 20kgs ago. We even had 2 white profiles recently that turned into black guys . My wife's preference is a white straight male and we even had some that go open a "straight" profile just to contact us forgetting they contacted us awhile back with the same pics etc. Hard to keep track when you lying :-)  Many more with all kinds of dishonest little scams. Easy to spot the cagey characters though and it has begun to be a source of amusement at times. Luckily we never had any qualms to walk away when we meet for coffee in a public place. I cannot figure out how they think it will go once we meet.

Our fav funny story is meeting M.....the Bull. This absolute animal with endless stamina (how he described himself) Greeted

and hugged my wife, both fully clothed . Kissed her,sort of rubbed against her and came in  his pants and made a quick exit.

Very funny at the time :-)

We try and retain our sense of humour knowing there are diamonds out there and have we been fortunate to meet and play

with a few of them. 

Sexlightened
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This site has many profiles like this recently had a couple send us photos when we met for coffee both of them looked nothing like they profile and don't get me started with the fake cock pics 

Sexlightened
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Oh my new favorite one is single lady profiles that are single but when you get to watsaap they have a play partner and when it comes time to meet they cannot make it but you welcome to play with him alone don't know if that has happen to anyone else

Master of Sex
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Quote by fadnad
Oh my new favorite one is single lady profiles that are single but when you get to watsaap they have a play partner and when it comes time to meet they cannot make it but you welcome to play with him alone don't know if that has happen to anyone else

 Oh yeah lol couples that are really a guy playing alone. 

Master of Sex
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Another is a dude I met. He's very good looking and we've video chatted as well and he looks the same as his pics. One problem... He lies about who he's met and where he is. Example he once sent me pic of girls in a club and asked me who should he go home with. And told me the next day of all the fun they had and that she just left. Next thing I see he's wedding photos on profile pic. And by the way I saw that the photo of girls in the club was an internet stock photo. I also met the couple he said he hooked up with and they said they've never met.


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Another is a dude I met. He's very good looking and we've video chatted as well and he looks the same in again pics. One problem... He lies about who he's met and where he is. Example he once sent mW pics o

 LOL but like the wife says just laugh it off and don't let spoil our fun but ya we know a single lady like that 

Warming the Bed
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Hhehehehehe the drama people go thru on SH jeez.....

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A sample of how these little "scamsters" react when caught out  . Hahaha!!

We got a few like this already. Some abusive ,threatening or even playing the sympathy card etc.

If a person respectfully turns you down why not just move on? There will be other matches.

This "gentleman" dripping with sweetness and kindness contacted us. We liked his profile but very

easily on it became clear how thin his "gentleman veneer" really is. We very respectfully told him

no thank you we do not want to meet. This hillarious message we received on SH  :-

"Fokken time wasters

Sal jou poesklap gee disrespectful idiot

Fok jou

Jy wat mind change

Hoef nie jou fokken vrou te naai

Eks nie desperate

Stupid asshole

Jy fok my rond

Kan nie hou mind oopmaak

Lanklal gese my travel dae

Dom doos"

Hehehehe !! Just funny little threats. Like a limp handed handshake. :-)


Sexlightened
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Seeman "Greeted and hugged my wife, both fully clothed . Kissed her,sort of rubbed against her and came in  his pants and made a quick exit."

That's a huge compliment to your wife! There are not that many woman that can claim that they made a guy cum just from hugging them. 

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Seeman "Greeted and hugged my wife, both fully clothed . Kissed her,sort of rubbed against her and came in  his pants and made a quick exit."
That's a huge compliment to your wife! There are not that many woman that can claim that they made a guy cum just from hugging them. 

 

No she did not see it as a compliment . Just a little weirdo rubbing against her getting his rocks off and ducking. Funny at the time though afterwards

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Well get a reply to an advert which indicates I am a bi male looking to play.

Get a reply from a profile indicating it's a single bi female.

But reply says I am the male part of the bi female.

So I politely decline as its clearly a false profile.

Then get asked for phone sex.

Politely decline again.

Then get a demand to know the reasons why I declined.

Sometimes you just go to laugh.

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I feel your pain, so many scammers around these days, that why I prefer to meet in person before sharing anything these days, or meet at aclub or lunch M&G

Sexlightened
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It really is getting bad I know of a couple in cpt that a single guy try to black mail them into sleeping with him but this was on Twitter not Sh you have to be so careful some idiots just spoil it for everyone 

Master of Sex
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Besides,scammers there's the  men or couples that actually get upset with me because I don't want to meet and fuck. Like immediately. Its states clearly in my profile what I want and what I am not interested in. Yet, I get angry responses when I say no I'm not into playing alone with couples. And try twisting my arm in hopes I will give up. The men swear at me and tell me to block them because I won't f them the day we are scheduled to meet. They won't to meet in hotel rooms not meet n greet

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I also don’t believe in playing on the first meeting, another reason for meeting in a public place , had my fair share of gents calling as well or even single ladies turning out to be men or couples where it is only the gent that arrives for meetings with a lame excuse 

Master of Sex
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I enjoyed reading this Fora and comments it is by way not the first time this gets discussed either, the subject comes up frequently. I Know when someone DID not READ my profile and JUST responds to my pics...as ALL my pics are some is from my very sexy lovey.......also oldies.




Warming the Bed
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when i saw that this thread was called scams i just presumed it was about people trying to extort money and blackmail...i think people misrepresenting them selves is pretty normal and common

Sexlightened
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Just read on the news the is people scamming and extortion people out of money because of they naked pictures 

Master of Sex
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Quote by haveusbc
when i saw that this thread was called scams i just presumed it was about people trying to extort money and blackmail...i think people misrepresenting them selves is pretty normal and common

 But don't they realise you are bound to want to meet in person?

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So true @sofistikitty, but most of these idots never have the intention of ever meeting up unfortunately 

Warming the Bed
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Sad really.....When its supposed to be a site for likeminded "adults"....

Like the guy who has two whattsapp accounts ( the other supposedly his wifes)....

Then he tell you to speak dirty to her and send pics...while he sends Internet pics of a woman in lingerie.....

Some of us have been around the block a few times....

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We've had pretty much all that everyone described. Question is, what can you do about them? 

Can we name them, report them? Warn others about them?

Sexlightened
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Quote by Domina
We've had pretty much all that everyone described. Question is, what can you do about them? 
Can we name them, report them? Warn others about them?

 We have named and reported a few times all they do is create anther account we caught the same guy twice that how stupid some of them can be 

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Quote by Domina
We've had pretty much all that everyone described. Question is, what can you do about them? 
Can we name them, report them? Warn others about them?
 We have named and reported a few times all they do is create anther account we caught the same guy twice that how stupid some of them can be 

 Hehe, I really want to know what they think will happen if you actually meet them? Do they think you'll say "oh, I feel so sorry for you, here, have a pity fuck" rotflmao

Forum Virgin
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Quote by Sofistikitty

 Oh yeah lol couples that are really a guy playing alone. 

This is truly the most annoying for me. I usually ask to chat to the wife but then get long ass stories about why she can't 🤦🏾‍♀️

Sexlightened
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This is truly the most annoying for me. I usually ask to chat to the wife but then get long ass stories about why she can't 🤦🏾‍♀️

And then they're salty when you call them disingenuous for creating a false impression.

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There must be a better way of veryfying the profiles, I had the same with a couple from PmB as well as a lady from PTA. There are way too many scammers on the site .