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Dont feel good about guy trying to break my girl with his fingers

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Should not happen at all terrible experience. Your lady must put a stop to it the moment it starts hurting she's there for herself no one to have to play for and if she does not enjoy it then stop it and all should respect it

Forum Virgin
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i'm reading your post here in absolute shock. You get 10/10 for your restraint, if i was in your shoes I would have punched the guy in the head. Your question "How do you come back from this" I can't answer and I can imagine how your wife must feel. From what you say happened i'm sure this guy was trying to make your wife squirt, but has no idea of what he is doing other than what he has seen on the millions of videos on the net, which most of all are bullshit and fake. I'm surprised his wife didn't intervene and stop what he was doing.

From my profile you will see i'm a married guy playing alone, so i'm not sure if that qualifies me to give you any advise. But I am 55 years old and been through the university of life. If i was in your situation, I would never play on the first date, a few meets for drinks or socializing would need to happen until i was really comfortable and got to know the couple on a social level first. There's no better way in finding out the true character of an individual than a few drinks, when they get a bit drunk they lose their inhibitions and display who they really are. When I was a manager I often went out for drinks with my staff just to see who they really were, and I was shocked at what i found out about most of them.  Also I would be very selective on the age group I chose, and older more mature couple who have been into the lifestyle for a long time with good experience would be my choice.

As much as there are loads of single males / married males playing alone who are just here for a NSA fuck who have generally given us a bad name - there are also couples on these sites who have serious issues, I have not met up with many couples, but only 1 from those i did, i felt were the real deal, all the others had some issue that made me walk away, from snorting habits and actually up to a couple where the wife wasn't even aware that the drinks meet was a possible hookup for a 3some. whatever these may be, be very aware the couple profiles can also be fake, you need to have a vetting system that kind of warns you before you hit the bedroom that they are not what you want. As a male, always take particular note of how another male speaks, looks at your wife when socializing. Is he focused on her or on you as a couple.

Hope you guys get over the bad experience and move on

BTW - hot profile smile


Warming the Bed
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This broke my heart. We had a terrible experience too. About 5 years back or so we met up with a couple and lets just say things didn't go well once we entered the room. We were new, inexperienced, didn't communicate sufficiently before it all took place. I can't say I have the words that could solve your mental state but trust me you did the right thing by leaving. It shows you care for one another. From my side we spoke about the ordeal in great detail and looked for possible mistakes we could've made. The reality is not everyone has the right intentions in mind, not everyone is a guru in bed, but the people we have had the most fun with are great communicators. That's one of the things we look for now. I look back at what happened and in a sense, today, I am grateful for how we pulled through it. Hopefully you do too and don't let this break you. I wish you all the best.... 

Warming the Bed
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Been is the LS for many many years.... only one rule and that is no = no...!! If anything and i do mean anything is not nice you just have to say no and it must stop. We all into this for our enjoyment.... ?

If its does not stop at no...get up and go, the people you are with is not worth knowing.

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This was something I was nervous could happen, but have also realised the in this lifestyle no is no. Yes play on the first date is a risk, I need to comunicate a few times with whom we chose. And the biggest thing about the life style is the "Ladies rule" motto. Any guy not happy with it,  good-bye! It also made me tend to be alot more dominant and in control. Hope you guys find the guts and strenght to carry on, and if stay in the lifestyle hope you find someone worth playing with over and over.

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well my friend. ive been reading this post probably 4 times, what she should have done is.... told the guy that it was sore and he must just go slower. no need to freak out all of a sudden. maybe hes wife likes it that way, if you cant say hey bro, its a bit sore when you do it like this, please try to do it in another manner, then you gonna have a rough road ahead, cause not everyone is the same, and not all people actualy ask if its ok like this or like that. he probably went nuts on her because she didn't say anything to him. yes you are allowed to say to the lover of the night,, yes that feels good, or no that doesn't work for me.


J

Warming the Bed
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I hear you re the hookups. so hard to find the right playmates. all I can say is if it were me I'd have been feeling as bad as you. there is no way around it, it happened, it's a crappy experience and now it's a case of seeing what happens from here. as with all things clear communication is an absolute must, and that does cut two ways! he should have been checking at every stage - especially when being a little rougher than is usual.

Forum Virgin
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we had a bad one as said no and he didn't wanna that in future of us not happy we

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This is a sad post. It should not happen. You as the man have to duty to ensure that the woman is safe with you. She is your guest and you should treat her even better with more care than your own wife. 

We as a couple belief in the rule of the ladies. The ladies decide if it should be a go or no go. Only when the ladies are happy with the partners than they decide the next step. One of our rules is "no play" on the first date. We learned this the hard way. Trust me on this rule. 

My wife knows me well and if she is not happy with the man or the woman, trust me I will follow her instinct. You will hooligans even inside the church. Still this is not good to read about this incident. Thanks for sharing it with us.